Safety Plan

Checklist

What you need to take when you leave

Identification Driver's license, car title and registration
Childrens' birth certificates Money
Restraining Order Lease rental agreement, house deed
Bank books Checkbooks
Insurance papers House and car keys
Medications Small objects you can sell
Address book Pictures
Medical records for family members Social security card
Welfare identification School records
Work permits Green card/immigration papers
Passport Divorce papers
Jewelery Children's small toys
Pets (if you can) Other

Safety When Preparing to Leave

  • Always try to take your children with you or make arrangements to leave them with someone safe.
  • Determine who would let you stay with them or be willing to lend you money.
  • Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, and extra clothes with someone you trust.
  • Open a savings account in your own name to start to establish or increase your independence.
  • Keep the shelter numbers close at hand along with other important numbers.
  • Remember – leaving your batterer can be the most dangerous time.

Safety In Your Home

  • Inform Neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see your abuser near your home.
  • Rehearse a safety plan with your children.
  • Inform you children’school or day care about who has permission to pick up your children. (Give them a copy of your restraining order.)
  • Change/add locks on your doors and windows as soon as possible.
  • Change your telephone number.

Safety On the Job and In Public

  • Decide who at work you will inform of your situation. This should include office or building security (provide a picture of your batterer if possible).
  • Arrange to have someone screen your telephone calls if possible.
  • Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have someone escort you to your car, bus or train. Use a variety of routes to go home if possible. Think about what you would do if something happened while going home.

Your Safety and Emotional Health

  • If you are thinking of returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternative plan with someone you trust.
  • If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest way to do so. Have someone with you.
  • Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive with others about your needs.
  • Plan to attend a support group to gain support from others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.
  • Decide who you can call to give you the support you need.
  • No one deserves to be abused.

If You Are a Teen in a Violent Relationship

  • If things in your relationship don’t feel right to you, talk about it with someone you trust.
  • Decide which relative, friend, teacher, or police officer you can go to in an emergency.
  • Contact a domestic violence advocate at Domestic Violence Solutions at 964-5245 to learn how to obtain a restraining order and make a safety plan.
  • Remember – you should never have to feel afraid in your relationship!
  • NO means NO!