Domestic Violence Solutions for Santa Barbara County

2 days ago

Shanna's story is incredibly empowering...

"If you or someone you know is experiencing violence of any kind, even if it’s not physical, please reach out. Please tell someone. It’s not your fault. This is NOT love. This is NOT healthy. This is NOT normal. THIS IS ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR. This is not love.

You are not fat or ugly or stupid or lazy or any of the horrible things he says you are. You are strong. You are smart. You are capable. You are worthy. You are worthy of real love. You are worthy of a love that doesn’t hurt you. You are good enough. You are enough, just as you are, right at THIS moment. Please know you’re not alone. It does get better, but it’s up to you to be brave and find your courage to leave, and to stay gone."

Thank you DomesticShelters.org 💜

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'To Escape, I Ran 2 Miles Barefoot in February'

One survivor's story of running for her life to escape an abusive partner.

Domestic Violence Solutions for Santa Barbara County

3 weeks ago

📖 Amazing article by DomesticShelters.org!

Suggestions for RECOVERY for those who have left a relationship of coercive control:

- Reclaiming activities that had been blocked by the abuser
- Embodying
- Connecting with family, friends, and supportive professionals
- Organizing time and physical space can help a person feel less overwhelmed
- Verbalizing
- Expressing oneself creatively
- Remembering
- You

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Recovery After a Controlling Relationship

Eight steps to healing after an abusive relationships organized by the letters R-E-C-O-V-E-R-Y. Find out what each letter stands for in the healing journey.

Domestic Violence Solutions for Santa Barbara County

4 weeks ago

"To teach kids how to be brave, we must first teach them to understand their fears. And for children of domestic violence, that means explaining to them that what happened at home was not about them."

Thank you DomesticShelters.org!

www.domesticshelters.org/articles/children-and-domestic-violence/how-to-help-children-find-their-... ... See MoreSee Less

How to Help Children Find Their Courage Again After Trauma

How to help kids regain their confidence after witnessing domestic violence.

Domestic Violence Solutions for Santa Barbara County

4 weeks ago

WOW! Please take the time to read this beautifully written recap of the "Grassini Gives Back" fundraiser on December 15, benefiting DVS! Thank you from the bottom of our hearts, Gail Arnold and the Santa Barbara Independent!!!

Special thanks to Grassini Family Vineyards and all who attended to make this event a mega success! 💜🍷

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Grassini Gives Back Raises $132,000 for Domestic Violence Solutions

Throng of supporters join generous winery for joyful fundraiser.